divorce cannot be resolved in
mediation and must go into litigation, it can turn your spouse into a cooperative
party into an outright opponent. Under the pressure that litigation is
“win or lose,” some divorcees take things too far and start
sending abusive emails at every communication opportunity. If your spouse
is spamming your inbox with abusive emails, or just getting overly aggressive
when they have to communicate with you, what can you do to set things right?
Ways to Approach & Deal with Abusive Emails
First things first, you don’t need to reply to
every single email that your spouse sends you during and after your divorce.
If the information within the email is abusive and offers nothing else,
then just ignore it. Or, at least, take some time to come up with a mature
response that helps defuse the situation.
do need to reply to an abusive email because it is pertinent to your divorce
proceeding, then you can always ask your divorce lawyer for help. Pretty
much every day, a divorce lawyer sees people behaving their worst because
they feel jilted or jaded. They can use that unfortunate insight to help
you respond. Together, you can pick and choose what in the email should
be addressed. For example, only talk only about what time the child custody
exchange is set to occur, and ignore all the jabs about your personality
your spouse might have dropped into the email.
It is also helpful to keep in mind that anything you send to your spouse
during or after your divorce is effectively public record that can go
before a family law judge. You should never respond in a way that conveys
a feeling, tone, or message you wouldn’t want a judge to read in court.
Richard Ross Associates is Here to Help
Before you hit reply to that abusive email from your spouse, call
805.410.3407 Richard Ross Associates in Westlake Village. Our divorce attorneys would
be happy to represent you during interactions with your spouse and guide
you through your divorce as well. With a Certified Family Law Specialist
leading our law firm, you can rest easy knowing we have the experience
and legal insight to overcome any situation that comes your way.
Contact us today to learn more about our legal services.